Falling in Love

Hi again~

I don’t know why but I feel like my world has turned to blue these few times so I think it’ll be better for me to share some about my love life. It’s not much actually, considering my own age which isn’t young anymore.. Don’t ask me to count what times I have falling in love before, because actually I don’t really know the exact number of how many times already I fall in love.

Sometimes ago, I read a fanfic, which tells me clearly the difference between you love someone and you are in love with someone~ And here, I want to share about falling in love to someone special. I have some favorite fanfic authors who always give me some beautiful sentences, or deep meaning, behind their fanfic. Suddenly, why falling in love?

I believe that each one of us has felt this type of syndrome, I mean, fall in love syndrome.. The feeling of riding a roller coaster, it brings you up at a time, and suddenly you just feel like falling to the ground? Feeling the utmost shyness when meeting your crush? Feeling that this world suddenly revolves around him/her, and only him/her? Feeling like you can do almost everything for your crush? Etc. etc.. (I can’t stop smiling when writing these syndromes).. Yeah, I’m in the state of loving someone right now, although this specific man has declared to me that he treats me as friend only.. I am over my broken heart state because really, I am an adult already, the pain should remain pain as long as I still love him, but it won’t change anything between us.. So I mean, come on.. You only live one time, just enjoy your journey~

So basically, what I want to share this time?

There are many stories I can tell here but I prefer to tell you the most recent story I have experienced.

I dated my classmate since university, we had a beautiful 5 years dating time. It ended about two years ago, when he told me that he loved me, yet he couldn’t promise me marriage yet anytime soon. Of course at that time, my world felt like crushing down. I couldn’t find any reason for him to tell me something as simple as that, that late. I had known his family so well, I got close to all of them already. At that time, I just felt that my world suddenly turned dark. At that time.. Initially, I thought the impact of  the ending our relationship won’t be too much for me to handle, but it proved that it still was too much. I couldn’t really like other men. I doubted almost everyone too much. At that time, I lost my confidence to like anybody else..

It’s almost two years that my relationship with my previous boyfriend has been over. It almost feel that I don’t really know how to like other person anymore. I always hear this phrase comes to me, “the right person will come to you eventually at the right time”.. I trust this phrase, of course.. But I am not really sure whether my situation fits this phrase already.. These two years time, I meet many new people because I change work two times. I still can’t find the ‘right one’, ’till the point that I ask to myself whether I still have the ability to like others. Well, my opinion isn’t proven valid, until one of my university friend  introduces me to one of her coworker. See, I’m all smiling again because of him.. He really colors up my world.. Where should I start this story from?

We actually work in different company, but we work for the same client so we have the same workplace. We can’t meet often because actually he comes to my workplace at least once a week. We know each other informally, because I ask my friend to introduce him via my facebook account only. He’s too shy, so almost one month since he asks me to be his friend in facebook, we never exchange any message. We don’t even talk to each other when we meet, we just keep seeing each other, like we get curious about each other but we can’t really talk to each other. I really want to get to know him better, because without realizing it, I develop my interest to him. One time I see him get really down, seems like he gets hard work.. I hate seeing him so down like that, so I decide to ask his condition via facebook. That’s where our conversation grows. From exchanging message  in facebook, until exchange cell number, until exchange gtalk account. Our conversation growth from once a week, once in a three days, and once a day.. Although I always be the one who start the conversation, I can feel that he also has this fun time chatting with me.. We get closer each day, but something gone wrong.. I accidentally send him message that I like him a lot.. and that’s the start of our awkward relationship.. He still responds my chat, but it decreases until the point that he’ll just answer my question only.. Our relationship has been this awkward since three months ago.. I get an information that one of his friend who understand our situation, tells one of my friend that this man has been so afraid ever since I tell him I like him a lot..

So I lost him already, I still love him, but I have to walk away.. For someone who I don’t really know his personality that well, for someone who I just know for about roughly one month, for someone who I don’t really know why I fall for him, I think three months is enough time to move on.. But it seems that it’s not really the case.. So I ever read this one beautiful fanfic again, and this sentence below hurt me a lot..

Love, friendship, hatred and all other emotions… they can spring from something so small and seemingly superficial like a weed in the garden you purposely leave out each time you tend to the flowers. You blink once and it has grown and multiplied and it gets difficult to pull out because it has already taken root on the soil. Just like people. It gets difficult to pull them out. They get difficult to forget because short as the meeting might be, they may already have taken root… in your heart.

In the midst of moving on, I really hope that this person can be happy, can find his soul mate soon, maybe only then I can just move on.. And oh, my own soul mate, where are you? I miss you a lot, really.. Can you come quickly and pick me up?

I miss you~

So how about your falling in love story? Care to share with me?

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The Wedding..

It’s been a while since my last post, isn’t it? I have something big going on with my life actually.. I really need to share it but I still can’t find a good way to say it here.. This certain something is actually not a bothering thing to me anymore, but for my beloved people, this is something big which is the biggest enemy for them right now.. But again, I don’t want to discuss it yet here so, next time~

Last Saturday I went to my older cousin wedding, which was a very wonderful event.. I started my day at 00.45 am because I needed to go out of my town to attend the wedding ceremony. Why was it wonderful? Here is the reason..

I should really tell you all that my father’s big family is really not an ordinary family. Ask me why? There are 9 siblings of them, and the oldest was born at 1936. They’re all alive, although the oldest sibling condition isn’t quite good right now. 7 of them are women, while 2 of them are men.. My father is the youngest of them all, and my father has 7 years age gap with his 8th sibling. All of them are educational people, who have high educational record and have background in children education. Almost all of  them are success people, who work even on the weekend. Maybe because almost all of them are success, let’s make an exception for my own father because he works in a small town, so almost all of them treat people based on their educational level. It’s not easy to live along with them, because almost all of your issues will be known by other, and they will naturally get included in finishing these issues.

This should explaining enough what’s the relation between my cousin wedding with the family. My father’s family is the type who always need to meddle with each one of the family member. Along this time, every time a family member gets married or has an event, it feels like the whole family will have a say on that matter. While other family member’s wedding or event gets other’s intervention, my cousin wedding isn’t. The event is so wonderful because its simplicity and solemnity.  My cousin is the bride. She doesn’t even wear something sparkling like a usual bride would wear in their wedding day. She just wears some natural make up and usual clothing, which adds her own color and beautiful.

Here I can again, see.. The wedding is actually the unity of two big families into one. Two people who are different is united into one by the wedding to create a new happy and healthy family. The wedding is one of the biggest day of your life, which will be the gate to your other big days. How you want to celebrate the wedding is always up to you, because each way to celebrate it only become meaningful if the event is happen according to the bride and the groom’s will. The wedding won’t be any less meaningless although you just hold a simple wedding, nor it won’t be any less meaningful if you hold a big event for it. The wedding, will only become meaningful if you pass it by your own realization, dedication, devotion, and love for each other, as long as the wedding should happen.

Friends, for anyone who will hold your own wedding event, I hope the event can be hold successfully, and your wedding will be a gate to your many happiness in life. For anyone who still wait for the ‘right’ one like me, may God speeds up our meeting with the ‘right’ one and tie us in a holly bond called wedding..

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For My Dearest Mother

Hi friends~

I don’t want to share knowledge this time, I just need something to write all my thought out~ I’ve been hurt for some times already because of someone who actually worth the pain.. I don’t really know him but I just love him like that.. Strange, isn’t it? I feel that too actually..

Well, that’s not the point of what I’ll be talking this time.. While being hurt a lot because of this certain person, I get a very bad news. My mother is sick, she needs to get medical check up twice because her urine test results in albino detection. I am deeply worried about her. While weeping about my lost love, I forget about my own family condition. Well, that’s my bad habit.. I shouldn’t be like this, and my mother bad condition reminds me to stay focus to my family, and not weeping about someone who doesn’t have any interest to me.. Finally I can let my sadness out fearlessly because my mother is sick, or not? Both events happen at the same time, what should I do then? I can’t just totally forget that my heart has been in pain, and my mother’s bad condition like adding the salt to my pain.. But again, I feel like God reminds me that I still have my beloved parents, which need me to take care of them more.. So I totally focused on my mother medical check up this time..

So friends, it’ll be very wise of you to check your parents condition from time to time. Although they may say they’re totally okay, there will always probability for them not to make us worry so they feel like they’re healthy. I’m sad because I can’t be at my mother’s side right now, and I totally forget her healthiness because of my own selfishness. If only I could turn back time.. Friends, please care more about your parents, moreover if they stay far away from you. Your  parents won’t ever make you worry, that’s why when we can’t check their condition by our own eyes, please stay alert. Don’t let them get sick if you can, so you won’t feel regret or anything.. Love your parents more, and care for them more, okay?

Be happy and healthy always~

And don’t forget to let your parents know that you love them~

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My Father is My Hero

Yesterday, just like the usual day to start the activity, I got a call from my mother. There isn’t anything special in our discussion, it’s just how’s my life and my younger brothers and sister going on here and how’s my parents life going on there.

We’ve been separated since I continue my study in 2006. It’s been some years but still, I can’t really get over the fact that we should be separated. You’ll understand what I’m talking about right now if you have to be away from your parents for a long time too. Although I can still see them twice a year but still, the fact that my longing to be there, close to my parents never ever been decreased since then. Unfortunately I need to stay here for my future, that’s why.. Talking to my mother over the phone has always been nice, although we often cry and laugh together over something.. She’s really my best-est friend in this world. Ever since I get some maturity development inside my brain, my mother starts talking about her own issues and also my father’s difficulties in life. At those time, you can’t imagine how happy I am to be able to hear some issues going on from her directly, but at the same time I feel many regrets. How come I am unable to detect those awful things for these times? How come I don’t even do anything to my parents issues in life? How come I can be happy at those times? When I don’t even know what’s going on with my parents…

My father, although I don’t often come to him when having some difficulties, he always stand quietly beside me,  look after me, and when he feels like I can’t go further, he’ll always tells me some good advises without me knowing that my father has always been looked after me. How silly I am~

My father, has always been my hero. He’ll always be my everlasting hero until I die. I learn almost everything about life from him. How can life can be so simple when we want it simple, how should life be spent in meaningful way, how to stand still in the middle of heavy storm, etc. My father, I always want my soulmate to have similar personalities as him. I don’t really need to say anything, I’ll suddenly cry when remembering how much he loves me, cherishes me, protects me. Seeing his back from far behind him, I can only see how tired my father must be to provide us along his life.. My father, how I wish I can make him proud.

My father, I know that I don’t say it much but, I love you ❤

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Happy New Year 2014

Hi there all my dear friends~

It’s like, very late I know but as usual, better late than never, right?

So, happy new year for all of you. Wish you all the best along the year 2014, let’s become better person so we can achieve better result. I also wish for the better world, as always~

Let’s run together again, shall we?~

 

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Life Qoutes

Hi there people~

Here I submit some quotes which I often read when feeling down or something along the line, wish it could be useful for you all.. If you want to read more quote, you can directly search it in google or go to goodreads.com. There are many good quotes there.

Being proud of yourself:

“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
― André Gide, Autumn Leaves

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
― Dr. Seuss, Happy Birthday to You!

“But better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.”
― Khaled Hosseini

“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.”
― May Sarton

“Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.”
― Douglas Coupland, Shampoo Planet

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt, This is My Story

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”
― Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You’ll Go!

Have a good life:

“To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of honest citizens and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to give of one’s self; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived—this is to have succeeded.”
― Bessie Anderson Stanley, More Heart Throbs Volume Two in Prose and Verse Dear to the American People And by them contributed as a Supplement to the original $10,000 Prize Book HEART THROBS

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”
― George Bernard Shaw

“Who are you to judge the life I live?
I know I’m not perfect -and I don’t live to be- but before you start pointing fingers… make sure you hands are clean!”
― Bob Marley

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

“Simplicity, patience, compassion.
These three are your greatest treasures.
Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being.
Patient with both friends and enemies,
you accord with the way things are.
Compassionate toward yourself,
you reconcile all beings in the world.”
― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

“The saddest people I’ve ever met in life are the ones who don’t care deeply about anything at all. Passion and satisfaction go hand in hand, and without them, any happiness is only temporary, because there’s nothing to make it last.”
― Nicholas Sparks, Dear John

“For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.”
― Sam Levenson

Life itself:

“If the world were merely seductive, that would be easy. If it were merely challenging, that would be no problem. But I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”
― E.B. White

“The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.”
― Isaac Asimov

“You cannot find peace by avoiding life.”
― Virginia Woolf

“Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these, ‘It might have been.”
― John Greenleaf Whittier, Maud Muller – Pamphlet

“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”
― Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum LP

“A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”
― George Bernard Shaw

“The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters.”
― Audrey Hepburn

“These woods are lovely, dark and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.”
― Robert Frost, Stopping By Woods on a Snowy Evening

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.”
― Bil Keane

“To love. To be loved. To never forget your own insignificance. To never get used to the unspeakable violence and the vulgar disparity of life around you. To seek joy in the saddest places. To pursue beauty to its lair. To never simplify what is complicated or complicate what is simple. To respect strength, never power. Above all, to watch. To try and understand. To never look away. And never, never to forget.”
― Arundhati Roy, The Cost of Living

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“Dare to Be

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.
When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.
When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.
When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.
When times are tough, dare to be tougher.
When love hurts you, dare to love again.
When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.
When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.
When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.
When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.
When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.
When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.
Dare to be the best you can –

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!”
― Audrey Hepburn

 

 

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Living A Good Life

Hi there again~

I want to post something related with life today, but I don’t really know what should I post >< And suddenly I get this idea to post about how to live your life in a good way. I get this idea because I follow Think and Grow Rich’s facebook which is really good. You should follow them too, it will give you updated motivation sentences in each day.

I believe that we’ve all already know about the world’s situation right now, where people in each countries struggle to believe whether there still exist good people with good deed. The crime are everywhere, and they’re terrifying 😦 I’m sure that every one of us, at least once, have this wish to do something for this world, and end up wondering what can be done by us because our existence is insignificant as it is already, in our mind. Why do I say it like that? I had similar experience before, actually, I’ve always been had this kind of thought but really, wondering only won’t move you anywhere, will it?

It’s decided by nature that all people have a good and kind heart. But of course, how they live their life will be whole different story. If they stick to their nature, then ultimately those people will be good and kind hear-ted. But of course, we can’t judge people just by their decision to follow their nature or not. There will be too many reasons for people to choose how they spend their life, some of the reasons we can understand, some of them we can barely understand, and the rest will be the reasons which we never can understand. People grow and mature based on their environment and their conditions. As for the world now, we should totally understand why the number of good people become lesser and lesser. Really, we should be thankful enough when we have good and comfortable environment to grow which makes us able to understand others. The world that we live in for now is the world which isn’t friendly at all. We can only wonder, why there aren’t many good people left anymore..

Back to the topic where we should live a good life. Based on my own experience, there are some advises to lead your life into good quality:

• Realize and understand deeply that your life itself is a blessing.

When chosen by God to breathe the soul in your physical, it’s decided already that your existence will make some significant changes around you later. You, who will grow and face this world, it’s not you who is decided by the conditions, people, environment, situations around you. Anything can happen to you, whether it’s bad or good. But in the end it’s still you who’ll decide the you who live this life. If you search what purpose you should accomplish in this life, search it by heart. You’ll find it in no time that really, there is something which you can do well for the people around you. Ask it to yourself~

• Realize and understand that each people has their own way to live their life, without feeling any insignificance.

I believe that each of us has at least once wondering what type of life and what type of purpose we would have accomplished if we were someone great. For the great reason of living itself, people always mistaken that when someone’s background (which is always related to money, fame, position, etc.) isn’t great then he can’t do great thing in life. Stop thinking like that, please. People will do great if they have great mind and attitude. To achieve those both, you can’t only have a good background supporting you. You’ll need many other things too. No matter how big you do your things, if they’re not come from the deepest of your heart, then they all will be useless. No matter how insignificant the things you’ve done, you’ll never truly understand the meaning unless you’re the person whom accepted your kindness. Believe me, your existence has its own purpose for this world, no matter how insignificant it seems.

• Realize and understand that each people always need their own time to do some introspection and reflection, thus you can always improve yourself in a good way.

When someone you know need her time to be alone, try understanding her. It’s not that she doesn’t want to accompany you, it doesn’t mean that she is selfish. It’s just, each person always needs their time alone, to reflect to their activities for specific time, or to be drawn in their own thought. Accept it or not, person who always takes their private time will get wiser with the increasing time as long as she uses her private time wisely.

• Realize and understand that each knowledge you have, no matter how insignificant it seems, maybe useful for the right person in the right time.

When you are in similar position with the person who needs other help, you’ll understand how true the sentence above. For example, when you come to whole new regional or city which you’ve never ever visit before, and you need to be in a specific place as soon as possible. You will possibly ask some residents available around you about where is the specific place is and how to get there easily. For you, the information is really important and useful, while for the resident whom you get the information from, it is really usual. See? Even just the simplest thing you know could be very helpful for other, then why should we keep wondering what to do for others? Just live your life in a good way, there’ll be definitely many things you can do for them..

• Realize and understand that by being a good person, you have contributed a big time to this world.

Having a good mind and heart with positive attitude is the best thing we can do for the world right now. Imagine when the children around you have to know that there are too many bad things happen around them, while they supposed to happily playing with their friends. Can you imagine what kind of future they will have later? Be a good person, and live your life in a good way. It may seems insignificant, but at least you’ve tried to give the good example for the people around you. Never give up hope.

I think that’s it for now. I need two days to finish this post but I truly hope that this article, again, is useful for all of us. Let’s live our life in a good way, friends~

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The Show Must Go On

Somethings remind me to one Japan dorama with title One Litre of Tears, which is highly recommended by me. It’s based on true story of a Japanese woman who get spinocerebellar degeneration(SCD) less than a year after enrolling in her high school. This disease will damage your neuron little by little and cause your death in the end. Why do I recommend this drama? You can see how much this girl struggle to accept the disease while being cheerful in her life. You can get more information about the drama here.

We often face some serious issues around our life, which are truly absorbed our strength. After finishing these types of issues, we’ll feel like our life spirit has reduced ten fold, that’s when we need additional strength to stand up for nth time to face another. Issues, troubles, and many other sad things will always come to our life in repetition. They won’t end until our life end by itself. When those times come, what do you do to fix this?

I believe that all of us have some special person to help us stand when we need strength. Either family, friends, or any other people can be those important people. By sharing our trouble with them, or even only by remembering those people, we’ll gain unbelievable strength. Those people smile and happiness which is really important for us, will be one of many other reasons to hold on and keep going.

We can also hear so many songs which lyrics represent to the strength we need when breaking down. For example you raise me up by josh groban, mariah carey hero, a goose’s dream – korean pop song which is become popular because of Dream High drama, Jason Mraz – I won’t give up, Lady Antebellum – Someday you will,  for Muslim we have InsyaAllah by Maher Zain, and many more. Listening to these types of song made us realize that we’ve been in this world with specific missions given to us by God, while completing one by one you’ll face many types of hardships.

While having those two methods, I thing the most effective way to gain strength is to look after people who have many ‘disadvantages’ than us. I have to give mark in the disadvantages part because they maybe disadvantages for us, but not for them who have it. If you still wondering what kind of disadvantages I talk about here, disadvantages can mean disabilities, incurable diseases, finance in competencies, etc. How can they make us gain strength? We should remember that we have been better than them in each aspect, while they do they best to cover up their disabilities and be success, we shouldn’t get lost to them as we’ve better. Do your best, gain strength, for them also. You’ll be happy. See the drama above if you want to know how they try their best not to ever give up.

The only thing I need to remind myself over and over is, there must be a good thing which will be happen to me after each of these issues pass. It can be knowledge, new experience, we can be stronger, or others. We should know that God is always there beside us, which is the most important thing to hold on when you get lost. God loves us more than we love ourselves. He lets those issues happen so that we can gain another good thing in ourselves.

I think that’s it for now, I need to update this post if I have other methods to do when needing strength. You can also share your method here, of course. We need to help each other, right?

Cao, have a nice day ahead~

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Being A Good Person

Hi there~

Meet again with me in my latest post this middle September 2013 ^^ Actually I wonder what post should I write today because I have objective myself to make at least one post in maximum three days time ><

While wondering, I remember about a term called “good person”. U want to listen the song related with good person? As Super Junior fan alias ELF, I should direct you to listen to their song in 4jib, Good Person by Super Junior below (free promotion intention attached):

While listening to the song, can you share your opinion about good person?

What is good person? How a person can have title as ‘good person’?

Again, I need to remind you that I actually just try sharing all my thought here without any intention to judge, teach, or something similar with superiority term at all. I’ve been trying to be a good person too, and in my opinion, being a good person is a whole life time learning process. A person can be a good person in short amount of time only, that’s why being a good person is a whole life time learning process.

The people surround me are people who like to judge other people accidentally, like when bad things happen in others life, or when others get trouble, when others achieve something good, etc. People tend to forget that they only know others in that sort amount of time and judge them without realizing that their judgement can hurt others too. Well, from this explanation I would like to give my first requirement to be titled as “good person” by me myself: A person shouldn’t mind others business too much which can cause in judging others harshly. People tend to forget to take the mirror in front of themselves first before bringing the mirror to every one else. There is this one Indonesian proverb which I like a lot -> “Semut di seberang lautan tampak,gajah di pelupuk mata tidak tampak” which means people can easily find others fault while forgetting their own fault. A good person usually try not to judge others when they are in bad position. He will try his hardest to understand why do these people get in bad position.

And then~, parents. What term you can come up with when hearing about parents? Obedient, authority, the most important thing in your life? I’ll give this question to you because we’re not going to talk about this term for now. Parent will have the most important role in bringing up the person to be a ‘good person’. Why parents? Because parents will be the only people who create their son/daughter’s personality, most of the time. Usually, people who have good parents will grow as a good person. So parent’s role will be the second requirement to be a ‘good person’. And the third is, the complimentary of parent’s role, good person will always think of his/her parent first before anything else come up in mind. Of course, these two requirement will be invalid if a person growing up in broken family or without his parent’s love.

Environment when growing up should be good to, in order to be a good person. This will be my fourth requirement. It kinds of impossible for people who grow up in bad environment to be good people later. It’s impossible because people usually act similar as their environment. What their environment show is what people in that specific environment understand as good thing, so there is no need for people in it to look for the truth whether what they’ve been doing these times are good things or not. But of course, as absurd as it sounds, people who grow up in bad environment also can be a good person. Usually these types of people have their own good role model so they can grow up good.

Just be a good person, will be the fifth requirement from me. Why this term? A good person won’t mind other business so much except when people ask their opinion or help. Good person will only try to be a good person in everything he does, in order not to hurt others. He only has good intention in mind when doing every activities he needs to do. I think this is the most important requirement to be a good person though, because how a people can be a good person should be explained by science and social knowledge. Growing to be a good person is a long way to explain only by experience or intention to share, and definitely it’s out of my league too.

All my requirements above aren’t placed as the most important and least important by number, okay~? *read: exception for be a good person part 😛

People who entitled as ‘good person’ will be loved by others. When they depart from this world, many people around them will be lost. They will be remembered by those who are left behind as a good person. There is no need for people to do some significant good things to be entitled as ‘good person’. They really only need to be a ‘good person’ in doing all activities.

All in all, being a good person is a choice which every body can take of course. Being a good person is not easy, but in other way it is not impossible. I believe that all of the people in this world have their affection to others by heart, they just being ignored so there are many heartless people in this world. How I wish to see all people going back to their true nature, that is being a good person (not forget to fighting my self, to be a good person of course). Let’s fight together?

I thinks that’s all my post for now, I’ll update as soon as possible..

See ya~ have a nice day..
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Dear Mom..

I just listen to SNSD Dear Mom a while time ago. It’s not like  I just ever heard the song at that time but, I think the timing was right and Iit happened that I listened to the song, along with English translation.

It’s not like I hate SNSD before but I never really pay attention to them as I did with Super Junior oppa so, I must admit that I really like their title album, almost all.. And their ballad songs are also really great, see: Complete, Dear Mom, How Great Is Your Love, Baby Steps (TTS), and lately Promise. I really like those ballad songs. Oh, about Dear Mom song, like I said before, I had known this song for a while ago but never really pay attention to the lyrics so I don’t get attached to this song but now, I feel like crying every time I hear this song.., Such a great song for your mom, if any of you want to listen to this song please check the live performance here.

It’s not like we don’t have any other good song about mother, but it just happened to be SNSD Dear Mom when I heard while feeling down so really..

You see, people tend to forget about how great their mom have been for all this time. Mother is the one who always takes care of us like our life is more precious than them. Mother is the one who will always support us when there is nobody behind us. Mother, ahhh really there are too many good things about mother in this world so.. just listen to the song and grasp the meaning, you’ll cry..

Mother, i love you <3<3<3

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